What is the Point of an Anniversary

Why must we make it more difficult for ourselves and our partners? I am coming up on one year of being married to my husband and this whole time he was annoying the shit out of me saying “What do you want?” “Would you like this ring” (me seeing it and finding it hideous) “Do you want to go to dinner?” (Picking places, I don’t like) I find it annoying because I am an introvert. I don’t like gifts of flashy things; my love language is touch. And since we cuddle and/or other activities involving touch, I am just as content and don’t need all this extra unnecessary stress. Am I wrong? Am I the only one that feels this way? Am I crazy? Hell no.

There are many different love languages that resonate with different people all around the world. Some people may love gifts, words of affirmation, quality time, acts of service, and of course touch. So, circling back to, what is the point of an anniversary. It was created to remember the day you and your loved one first made the initial meeting and began your love story. But it can also be someone’s birthday, death, wedding, or even buying a new home alone or together. Now if you think about it all these things can be celebrated but I find it that when it comes to gift giving for these types of events it can become stressful to come and for the anniversary of someone’s death what do you give? For birthdays it’s easier when their kids and maybe preteens, but after that, those little shits become picky and just hate pretty much everything except money. And for someone who just turned 78 with health complications do you just get them compression socks and aspirin for their pain and Vicks vapor rub cause you us Latinos that cure everything. *Insert laugh*

Anyway, all jokes aside I just couldn’t sleep for the last night’s wondering what to get my husband whose love language is also touch but also words of affirmation. And again, he just won’t stop bugging me about what to get me or where to take me (restaurant) for our anniversary night. So, after much thought and consideration of other people’s opinions, I have created this list for introverts like me to help our partners when the Anniversary comes around. I will make a list of gifts for each love language. These will also be my personal ideas on what I like and what I find to be romantic. So don’t come at me if it’s too tacky, expensive, or not what you wanted for your love language.

Love Language Gift Ideas

Physical Touch:

  1. The Adventure Challenge Mystery Scratch-Off Book – Couples Edition

I think it’s adorable that you and your partner can create a book together challenging each other but also making memories to look over 5, 10, and 50 years from now. As you go through the book of challenges you can add a photo and write a brief description of how you both felt. (And in the comfort of your own home lol) I will be giving this to my husband for our first anniversary. 9/22.

  1. Let’s Talk Love– 3 games in one card game for couples!

I love board games and card games to play at home. And this game is so much fun. Not only do we get to learn more about each other and remind ourselves of why we love each other, but we also just get to learn each other’s boundaries and get to cross them together because we love and trust each other so much. The game is 3 in one because you can make the game fun & flirty, intimate, or my favorite spicy.

  1. Weight Blanket

I know some might think this is weird but who doesn’t love sleep? There are nights (like right now writing this blog) where your partner may sleep alone for a bit. And if you are not there to cuddle them a weighted blanket will do just that. Keep them warm and provide them comfort until you crawl back into bed.

Words Of Affirmation:

  1. MESSAGE PILL CO. Gifts

I think these daily affirmation pills are adorable. Each message comes with inspirational messages to help you or your loved one have a great day from the start. Also, if you want to make it even more personal, write your own messages and add them to the jar/box. They don’t have to be perfectly rolled up like a pill. What matters is that you added your piece of love in there for them.

  1. Personalized 3D Vertical Bar Necklace, Custom Necklace Engraved with Any Name Pendant Jewelry Gift

What’s more romantic than a piece of jewelry with your date, name, photo, or even a special message to read every day. Some may think this is tacky, but I think it’s beautiful. And if you’re not big into jewelry look for affirmation socks! It’s something you can wear every day and every time you look down at your feet you can read what your loved one wrote for you. (For those tough days)

Act of Service:

Now for people whose love language is an act of service, they don’t typically require a physical gift.

  1. Instead, why not cook them a home-cooked meal, clean the house, light some candles to make it romantic, and some light music to set the mood. The classic thoughtful gift is both an act of service and romance.
  1. Another idea would be to plan a trip/getaway for just the two of you. Taking charge of the whole planning would be a great act of service. We all know how stressful it can get, but if you plan it all and surprise them, they will surely love it. You can also plan a staycation in some ways, it’s similar to planning a trip but better.
  1. Don’t forget some love coupons! What are love coupons you may ask? Well as an act of service love language, your partner can pull out a coupon to use any day, time, or anywhere. It may be random or it may be a list of things you KNOW your partner will truly love.

Gifts:

  1. Skylight Picture Frame

The magical picture frames are a perfect way to show your significant other just how much you loved spending a year or more together. Since it’s connected to your email or through an app you can change the photo as many times as you want. It’s the gift that keeps on giving!

  1. The 5 Senses Gift Idea

What is the 5 senses gift? It’s multiple gifts that fill all 5 senses. For someone who loves gifts, giving them multiple gifts in one is exactly their language. For smell get them perfume or candles. Hearing it would be earbuds, Bluetooth speakers, tickets to a concert, or even an audible subscription. For seeing get them movie tickets, books, plants, or artwork. Touch makes them a massage appointment (or give them one), Mani/Pedi, pajamas, weight blanket, lotions, and oils, clothes, and socks. Lastly for taste order them their favorite drink (alcohol or non-alcohol), a restaurant gift certificate, candy/chocolate (their favorite), coffee or teas, or even supplies to make their favorite dishes at home.

Quality Time:

People whose love language is quality time would much rather just want time with you over any gift you chose for them. If your significant partner craves quality time here are a few gift ideas.

  1. Table Topics

These cards not only give you both quality time together but also a better insight into one another and what you two truly desire. A great way to get to know each other.

  1. Experiential gift

These gifts are more like booking experiences together that you both would enjoy. Like a hot air balloon ride, a cooking class together, a wine and cheese paring class, or even a painting class. Choose something you both would enjoy, and it gives you both quality time.

  1. Travel to different destinations. Traveling not only lets you both explore, but it makes you both spend lots of quality time together. Plus who doesn’t want to travel?

Well, this is all I have for you tonight. I hope you enjoyed my blog post and if there is anything I can do for you or if you have any questions or concerns, please message me. I am a great listener.

Good night.

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