A Healthy Marriage Means Two Healthy Individuals

Marriage is hard. You always hear it, and you always assume well maybe you’re with the wrong partner. But until you go through it you don’t fully understand just how hard it really is. As a woman we all have an idea our or “perfect” man and marriage.  We think that the man we first started to date would be the man we will be married to our whole lives. But over time not only do they change but so do we. Over time we discover more about ourselves and each other and if you’re dating it’s always easier to break up and move on to be with someone where meant to be with. But being in a marriage unless you want a divorce you two need to talk about it and try to make things work even when it gets ugly.

I was listening to Jordan Peterson on the True Geordie podcast, and he said that woman on average experience more negative emotion than men. And that 75% of divorces are initiated by women. Women are more unhappy than men, women are more prone to depression, anxiety disorders, and even suicide attempts. Even though men commit suicide more often that is because they use guns due to being more violent towards themselves. But back to woman having more negative emptions it starts at puberty. From the start we have always had a physical disadvantage. Boys and girls can wrestle and fight, but men and women can’t. Men are way stronger especially in the upper body. That’s why you see women hitting men more but it’s never aggressively or to the point where we hurt the man. But being the other way around it’s never fair. And as we all get older the women’s body gets weaker faster vs the mans. So, the worlds more dangerous. Were also more vulnerable sexually, and we must take care of infants on top of that. With all of this were tilted more towards a threat detection.

Listening to Jordan Peterson say all this about us women it’s no wonder why we always prefer to find a “bad boy” to fall in love with. Because deep down we crave a man to protect us. That’s why most women fall in love with characters like pirates, werewolves, vampires, and more. We want the adventure, the excitement, the thrill of a lifetime inside and outside the bedroom. We don’t want to just settle down we want to thrive up and create exciting new adventure with our partners. If you and your man are out in public and your holding each other’s hands, if he were to get into a disagreement with someone, he is still holding your hand. He will continue to look back at you to make sure your ok and to let you know he’s got this. That is what most women crave for. And not getting that from your partner will just drive them to cheat, second guess their marriage, leave then divorce. You hear time and time again that even when your married you still need to go on dates. You need that one-on-one time with your partner to remember why you fell in love with them in the first place. Lack of dating and communication is key to a failed marriage.

I am not a marriage professional or therapist, but from my own experience in my own marriage this is me just ranting. I may be right or wrong, take this how ever you want. But If your married and you truly love your partner and wish to make things work then talk to each other. And if you can’t then seek counseling with a professional or if you both go to church talk to your pastor, minister, whoever you feel comfortable talking about this to. Time to put away your pride and ego and make sacrifices to make the relationship work. Together you must learn to love each other again, support each other and listen to what the other person has to say. Stop taking each other’s love for granted because this life is too short.